November 7, 2018
No really… I forgot to write today’s blog.
At the start of the year, I set a schedule for prepping in advance and sending out a newsletter and blog every week, and so far, I’ve mostly kept that schedule. Until now…
This year, I have been proud of myself for scheduling blogging/newsletter writing days at the end/beginning of the month where I knock out a month’s worth of blogs and newsletters all in one day. It’s been a stress-free, efficient, easy, fast way to do things for me and it gives me a jump start on the month! It’s been great! Many blogs and newsletters you see from me were written weeks in advance because of my system (with the exception of wedding blogs, of course).
But last week, the week where I had set aside time to write all my blogs and newsletters for November, I messed up. I didn’t write. I didn’t prepare. So that meant that I didn’t have a newsletter go out last week. And that means I woke up this morning realizing that I didn’t have a blog to post today.
I guess I’m sharing all of this with you because, while it may seem like a silly thing that I didn’t prepare and it may seem like it’s no big deal, to me it’s a big deal. I feel frustrated at myself for dropping the ball so hard.
But then I realized why I dropped the ball. I dropped the ball because my littler sister and her boyfriend were coming to visit for the first time. I dropped the ball because I was excitedly preparing for her arrival, cleaning the house, finally decorating our guest bedroom for the first time in the 5 years we’ve lived here. I was grocery shopping for dinner we would cook, the fancy cheeseboard we would make, and the s’mores we would roast over the firepit.
Then I realized that if I had to choose between spending my day writing blogs or spending my day preparing for my sister to come, I would pick the latter hands down. And I did. And the more I thought about it this morning, the more I realized that that’s ok. In fact, I’m proud of myself for prioritizing my family. For prioritizing what is MOST important in my life. Don’t get me wrong… my blog and my newsletter are important to me and I am so thankful for the people who read what I have to say each week. But at the end of the day, my family, quality time with the people I love, time to rest… those are the things that are most important to me.
So as I sit here writing this at 8:50am on Wednesday morning, about 2 hours after I would normally have my pre-written, pre-scheduled blog published, and just minutes before I will hit publish on this blog (something that never happens because I always prepare these blogs weeks in advance), I am smiling to myself. I am not disappointed in myself. In fact, I am proud of myself for not preparing my November blogs last Tuesday like I had planned to. I had my priorities straight last week. And unfortunately, that doesn’t always happen. But it happened last week and that’s a good thing.
My day to write my November blogs and newsletters got pushed back a bit. And that’s ok. I hope you guys understand. And I hope that my silly little story encourages one of you out there. The one who struggles with feeling like they have to do things perfectly, like they have no choice but to push what is most important to them off to the side so that they can keep up with expectations (expectations from themselves or from others). This is for you. Even if it’s just one of you. I want you to know that it’s ok if you miss a day. It’s ok if you forget something. It’s ok if you “drop the ball” on a goal you set for yourself if it means that you can focus on what truly matters to you.
You can do anything, but not everything. Keep your priorities as your priorities. The rest can wait. Do what is most important to you. And when you mess up, get back up, dust yourself off, and try again.
It’s all good.
Hugs for you, my friend!