September 26, 2017
Wedding planning can be stressful. Can I get an amen?!
Anyone who has ever been a bride (or a mother of the bride) knows what I’m talking about. Whether you’re planning your wedding for 2 years or 2 months, it can be a stressful process. And it can be very easy to get caught up in the details and to let the hiccups and the things that don’t go according to the plan steal our joy and excitement.
I want to use today’s blog to just give brides a little bit of encouragement. This is a blog I have had on my blog list for about 6 months now and I think it’s time to finally share it since we’re officially in busy Fall wedding season and I know there are alot of brides out there who are in the middle of planning their weddings!
If you’re currently planning your wedding and you’re feeling the stress of it all, I want to encourage you and remind you that you’re not alone. I 100% understand what you’re going through! It may have been 9 whole years ago that I was planning my wedding (gosh, I feel old!), but I do understand the stress like it was yesterday! Let me give you a small glimpse into my wedding planning process…
We planned my wedding in 8 months. I was living in Alabama while my entire family was living in Virginia. Most of my closest friends lived out of town too. My older sister was also planning her wedding at the same time and hers was taking place 3 months before mine. Planning 2 weddings at once requires a strict budget. Oh and I lived in Huntsville and our wedding was taking place 1.5 hours away in a small town with limited vendors and resources available to us… so that was another fun thing to make the already complicated planning process a tiny bit more complicated. Haha! I was also working full time (plus shooting weddings on the side) and going to school full time.
It. was. not. easy.
Then, on the wedding day, things didn’t go 100% according to our original plan. We had a few hiccups, including some slightly bigger hiccups.
BUT… despite the hiccups and despite the moments of stress we dealt with in the planning process, thankfully, we didn’t let those challenges steal our joy and excitement. We remembered what the day was really about. It wasn’t about the flowers or the guest list or the weather (it was about 100 degrees on our wedding day) or the dress (my original bustle was terrible, so we had to improvise with safety pins on my wedding day). Yes, those things are important and alot of time and thought and energy and money is put into those things, but those don’t need to steal our joy, our excitement, our focus.
On our wedding day, you could not get our smiles off of our faces. We knew that regardless of what stressful things we went through during the planning process, regardless of went “wrong” on the wedding day, we were going to get married that day and that was all that mattered. Truly.
I share all of that because I want give brides a gentle reminder to remember what the day is really about. Don’t let the hiccups or challenges or desire for perfection steal your joy. Remind yourself over and over again what brought you guys to this place of planning a wedding in the first place. Fight really hard to keep that focus.
Remember what you love about each other. Remember that at the end of the day, you two will be married! How exciting and wonderful is that?!
Some things might start to feel stressful, some things might not go 100% according to your original plan, but remember that ultimately the day is not about the event. It’s about you and your love finally getting married! When you remember that, other things seem to just melt away. You won’t be able to wipe that smile off of your faces. And that is what made my wedding day so enjoyable. Not the pretty flowers or the delicious cake. It was the perfect day because we finally got married… that was what we truly wanted in the end.
So, my friends, remember what the day is about. It isn’t about the event. It may seem like it is from time to time during the planning process, but that is not what it’s about. Don’t let other things steal your joy and your focus. Get excited about your day! It’s going to be amazing regardless of what happens because YOU’RE GETTING MARRIED! :-D